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It is a good question Janice. In the fifties and sixties there were hundreds of mother and baby homes across England that were run by local authorities, charities, churches and the Salvation Army. They weren't hugely resourced and relied on unpaid labour to operate. They were only set up to look after mothers and babies when the children were very young and so a decision had to be made what happened next. Contrary to popular opinion, many using these homes were't unmarried mothers but were being helped through a difficult time due to lack of support at home for various reasons. A large proportion of the unmarried mothers and their babies were taken back by their families after staying here.Only a minority of children were put up for adoption. This amounted to about 185,000 which sounds like a large number but this is over many decades and across the country. Like others on this thread, there are people in my life who have been adopted and they grew up in loving families.I am very uncomfortable with some of the harsh judgements that are being made of the people involved in this system who seemed to have been primarily motivated by the welfare of both the mother and child and often worked on a voluntary basis. It is particularly upsetting to see midwives traduced - women who devoted their lives to mothers and babies.People may, with the benefit of hindsight, try to impute malign intent to them but that ignores the position they were in. Obviously most of these mothers were poor and, without family support and a functioning welfare state, leaving the child with them just wasn't feasible. My Irish friend points out that at the time this was happening there most of the adults involved would have grown up with someone who was alive at the time of the famine and Ireland was an impoverished country with a significant amount of the population living just above subsistance level. A change of one productive member of the household into two dependents would have been sufficient to tip it into penury. The idea that, once the family had made the hard decision that it couldn't raise the child, the mother's rights had been ignored, is a very 21st century concept.The issue doesn't arise as much in our present day largely because most 'unwanted' pregnancies are aborted. One wonders how much choice young mothers, in similar circumstances to women in the fifties and sixties are given in this decision. I suspect not much and, in our determination to prove our superiority to previous generations, we are ignoring much greater injustices in our own time.

Diane Brown ● 10d

As someone with two members of my broader family who were adopted, I have to say that this discussion is very onesided. Every case is unique but I suspect in future years a similar discussion will be demanding apologies on behalf of children who were left with obviously unsuitable birth mothers.Ann Keen's son grew up to have what I understand was a relatively happy and successful life. Would he have been able to do this with a single teenage mother who didn't have  broader family support and wouldn't have got adequate support from the state at that time?I don't know much about Ireland other than having read the book and seen the film Philomena. Her adopted son went on to work in the White House (when that was something that gave you credit). This was country that was far poorer than here and even less support for low or no income families and no one was offering a practical alternative to what actually happened.It is not clear to me what exactly the individuals or agencies that were involved in adoptions at this time are being asked to apologise for other than sometimes stygmitising mothers. Are you saying that they should not have sought to ensure that the child should have been brought up in a family where it was likely that they would not starve?Adoption is not a guarantee of a happy life and in some cases the child may indeed have turned out to be happier with its birth mother. However, we are all aware of cases from our own times when this latter choice has been catastrophic for the child.I would never want to minimise the pain and guilt that a mother must feel in having to give up a child but I also think it is grossly unfair to characterise the agencies that arranged adoptions as heartless and unfeeling. They acted in what they believed was everyone's best interests and my own experiences suggest they often got this right.

Anita Blake ● 13d